Love is tied to your will. We must make a choice to love. By choosing love we have automatically chosen to give something of ourselves. Love is an act of your will, without action it is not love.
The Greek word for Love: agapeo = Love, a verb. “the commitment of devotion that is directed by the will…and can be commanded as a duty”.
The chief expression of love is giving. You really don’t learn about love until you actually do it. Love is selfless. If you say you love and are not giving anything of your self, you are decieved. Until you have given and invested yourself in the act of love, there are realms of understanding you will never attain in the love department.