Fellowship is relationship in action.
Fellowship is not just hanging out, although hanging out can be fun and have some value. You must be intentional and deliberate about connecting with people. The goal is not to have a thousand friends. You can be friendly, but maturity moves you from quantity (amount) to quality. You should have some people in your life that you can have quality fellowship with because fellowship adds value and brings joy to relationship. We need one another, and we are called to “community.”
The Bible says it’s not good to be alone. We were made for fellowship to enhance relationships. This is true with your relationship to God, and part of your relationship with Him involves relationship and fellowship with other believers. Your gifts, talents and abilities are not just for you; they are to be shared with others, especially with those in the body of Christ. When we bring all of those gifts and abilities together we experience God on a level that we would never enjoy being isolated. Christianity cannot be practiced in isolation. If you do, it will become irrelevant.
Fellowship cannot just be “programmatic.” It must be “organic,” it occurs naturally. Don’t expect the church to meet all of your needs for fellowship. You must bare some of the responsibility. You must actively pursue Godly interaction with other believers. Fellowship must be intentional and it requires investment on your part. Scripture makes it clear: Mark 12:33, John 13:34-35, Acts 2:42, Romans 12:10, and Hebrews 10:25.
New Testament scriptures teach mostly about how we treat one another and live together. It tells us to: live in harmony, love one another; accept one another; instruct one another; greet one another; serve one another; bear with one another; make allowances for one another; be kind and compassionate to one another; speak to one another; admonish one another; encourage one another; spur one another on; offer hospitality; and edify one another. That’s just a part of the list!
You are going to have varying levels of fellowship. You cannot be on the same level as everybody and that is ok. No matter where you are spiritually, you have the ability as well as the responsibility to contribute to the fellowship.
When you are in fellowship with somebody, you should be adding value to that person. Those people who do not add value to your life do not belong in your life. People will fit into one of four categories. Adders, multipliers, subtractors and dividers. If you are in a group with all subtractors and dividers, you need to find another group!
Above all, fellowship is to be God honoring. Do not mess around with things and borders that could potentially bind you or make you fall.
None of us is a whole body. We are all “parts” and we need one another… or it just doesn’t work. You should have friends that are not believers so that you can be salt and light, but you have to limit what you share together.
We are called to and we need true fellowship. Be deliberate about this! Ask God, who directs traffic, to put “valuable” people in your life to fellowship with.